Saturday, July 31, 2010
Friday, July 30, 2010
Why are we so mean?
I have been reading some posts on modesty lately (it seems to be a recurring theme). The posts are pretty good but what's shocking about them is the comments.
All the women agree that we should be modest, but they disagree in what exactly modest is. Some say it's showing a bit of cleavage, some say skirts shouldn't be above the knee, some say no bare shoulders, etc etc.
And it's only obvious that there will be disagreements. It all depends on the way we (as individuals) have been raised, the place where we grew up, examples we had and body types. What seems slightly... um... revealing... for someone might look just fine on a flat chested woman.
But this isn't really the problem. We can't ALL agree on everything. The problem is how they interact with each other, not really taking in consideration that the other person typing is... well... a person. That has feelings, thoughts and a background. And yet, we all seem to want the others to think of our feelings before replying to the comment.
And that got me wondering... why are we so mean? is it simply because we're typing and looking at a screen? perhaps if we had the other woman in front of us, it would be so much easier to think about their feelings, gage their reactions. But since all we see is a screen, black and white letters well... it's easy to forget that there's a person behind that.
Or maybe we're naturally mean to each other. Like some sort of primitive thing inside us. Just like we see animals fight each other to show who is stronger or a better mate, we still have this wild instinct of trying to feel better than the other female: she's funny but I'm prettier. She's smarter but I'm funnier. I know more about modesty than she does.
Who knows, maybe it's a mix of both.
All the women agree that we should be modest, but they disagree in what exactly modest is. Some say it's showing a bit of cleavage, some say skirts shouldn't be above the knee, some say no bare shoulders, etc etc.
And it's only obvious that there will be disagreements. It all depends on the way we (as individuals) have been raised, the place where we grew up, examples we had and body types. What seems slightly... um... revealing... for someone might look just fine on a flat chested woman.
But this isn't really the problem. We can't ALL agree on everything. The problem is how they interact with each other, not really taking in consideration that the other person typing is... well... a person. That has feelings, thoughts and a background. And yet, we all seem to want the others to think of our feelings before replying to the comment.
And that got me wondering... why are we so mean? is it simply because we're typing and looking at a screen? perhaps if we had the other woman in front of us, it would be so much easier to think about their feelings, gage their reactions. But since all we see is a screen, black and white letters well... it's easy to forget that there's a person behind that.
Or maybe we're naturally mean to each other. Like some sort of primitive thing inside us. Just like we see animals fight each other to show who is stronger or a better mate, we still have this wild instinct of trying to feel better than the other female: she's funny but I'm prettier. She's smarter but I'm funnier. I know more about modesty than she does.
Who knows, maybe it's a mix of both.
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